MY wedding date is approaching in July, but I’m unsure. My parents think he has too much baggage. We have much in common, but we’ve also had a series of events that have dampened our relationship.
I’ve never been married. When we met he said he wasn’t married either. Well, my dad is an ex-cop and about three months into our relationship, in his free time he looked up my boyfriend. A search showed there was a woman with his last name living with him. When I confronted him, he came clean and said he was married but separated.
I was devastated. I was in total shock but my mother didn’t think it was the end of the world. My instincts said let him go, but I listened to my mother’s advice and continued to date him. From there other lies were revealed, which didn’t have anything to do with me or our time together, but they made it hard to trust him.
He has worked hard to be transparent, but I haven’t reached a place where I’m sure I want to marry him. Time is ticking and a lot of money is on the line if I don’t make a decision soon.
MEGAN
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Dear Megan,
The basis of your interest in him was founded on a lie. You thought he was single. Your instincts said, ‘Run’.
Rather than dreading the looming deadline, you should be grateful it is forcing you to act. You aren’t enough in love with him to be certain of this relationship, and that should spell the end.
WAYNE & TAMARA